Anger - Can We Justify It In Today's Civilized World

I can think of a million reasons why I should be angry and I can think of a million reasons to avoid getting angry...
but there must be some evolutionary tale as to why us humans get angry at times. What for, eh?

What civilized person needs to be angry. Being angry is self-destructive and makes you feel bad. Your blood pressure rises, you start thinking irrational, you make bad decisions and take lofty dangerous risks. 

So what do we do, we try to suppress those feelings, redirect them, or mask them. We feel being angry is an unreasonable trait, something to be ashamed of and not talked about.

Apparently, it's good for us to get mad once in-a-while. Being a good motivator, anger can turn into a positive unstoppable energy force, making you feel strong and powerful, turning the tide enough to get the deed done.

In relationships, anger is unavoidable and hiding it from your partner is a no-no. It's better to get the reason why you're angry out in the open in the first place. If your partner doesn't know you're angry they'll just keep doing it and the angrier you'll get but if you express that anger, and if it's real then finding a solution is better than venting. It will strengthen the relationship in the long haul.

You know how you feel, acting irrational after getting angry. Pretty stupid, eh? But consider the alternative. If the problem is not resolved by getting angry it increases the chance of the relationship turning violent. When someone gets angry around you, it's your social cue to step right up and placate the angry party. If there was no such thing as anger, would people be jumping right into violence without experiencing the buffer we call anger? Anger helps in certain situations before things get to far out of control.

It is a good strategy though for getting what you want. Maybe not the best and you can't rely on it, but people get angry for all sorts of reasons. Kids get angry to get their way, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

Can we justify anger in today's civilized world, I say yes, eh?

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