Let your imagination soar, sex in your old age is not just about intercourse anymore, it's about emotional, sensory and relationship pleasures. Intercourse is not the only way to have sex, don't forget there's touching and kissing amongst other things to do.
Of course, senior sex between a 75 or 85 may not be like it was when you were 20 or 30. Older people are more self-confident and self-aware compared to their counter parts and are wiser concerning their partners needs. When you're that age, you have more time to relax and get into the mood.
When I look in a mirror at myself naked, and I'm only a young 67, I see an older man. I worry what others will think now, let alone when I'm 85. I'm worried about my body image, my performance. Then I remember when I was 20...
I didn't like my body image back then either, and I'm sure a lot of you feel the same.
In a survey, by the New England Journal of Medicine that more than half of those aged 57 to 75, and a third of the 75-to-85-year-olds, said they gave or received oral sex. Yep, you heard right and if you think you haven't heard enough 52% of men and 25% of women reported they masturbated, regardless of whether they had a partner or not.
I know sex will or should increase my lifespan and could improve my mental health, burn fat, release endorphins in my brain, and reduce my anxiety.
This is what they tell you to do, if you find being intimate difficult;
- Be playful, tease, tickle, use humour. It will lighten the mood. Use foreplay.
- Be honest, which fosters trust and relaxation, surprisingly it can be very attractive.
- Be inventive, experiment and discuss new things with your partner.
- Lose those inhibitions, forget what you've been taught when you were younger, you are a completely new person now.
- Don't rush, stretch the experience to the limits. Don't be shy. Touch and encourage others to touch you back but most of all, relax.
If you lose your desire for intimacy and touch entirely, then that might mean something else is wrong, so go get checked out!
Hopefully, it will be nothing a bottle of Viagra won't cure.
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